Emotional Habits: The 7 Things Resilient People Do Differently (And How They Can Help You Succeed in Business and Life) by Akash Karia.
Cultivating Emotional Resiliency
Have you ever been in a situation where your emotions took over, and you did not respond as your best self? Don’t worry. We’ve all been there, in moments where our emotions seem to be in control of the scenario. Emotional resiliency is about the ability to choose the best emotional response to any given situation. You choose to make the best of the moment and not let your emotions get the best of you. Emotional resiliency is the foundation for the pathway to success, for balance, perspective, and inner strength.
The author describes seven habits of emotional resilience that help you respond to situations in a way that is empowering rather than limiting. These habits are tools to help increase your emotional strength while lessening the number of times your emotions take control.
Emotional Resiliency Habits
#1 – Accept responsibility for your emotions
- Acknowledge all emotions you experience and suspend self-judgment
- Emotions are a part of life
- Accept that there is nothing wrong with you
- Your emotions are your reality
#2 – Master your emotions through physiology
- Physiology – body language reflects the feelings on the inside
- Good posture makes us stronger
- The moment you change your physiology is the moment your emotions and mood change
#3 – Consciously control meaning through focus
- In the moments when negative emotions take over, re-imagine the event and assign a new meaning to the emotions
- Focus on where your attention goes
- Positive emotions help you adjust your focus and the meaning of the emotions
#4 – Mold your belief system
- Our beliefs have great power over us
- Emotions deeply connect to our belief systems
- Consciously examine your emotions, then mold, and re-mold their belief system
- Strive as much as possible to make the desired state of your emotions your main focus
#5 – Understand the power of questions
- Questions drive our thinking and our emotions
- Be aware of the questions you ask and the assumptions behind those questions
- Questions can guide your mental energy
- Ask questions that lead to self-awareness and drive you in the direction of positive change
#6 – Manage your self-talk and inner movies
- Memories evoke emotions
- Important not to drown in your negative self-talk
- Change the inner dialogue to break the negative emotional pattern
- Turn up the volume on positive memories
#7 – Use future-pacing to control the ABC loop
- Emotional habit follows the ABC Sequence
- A = Antecedent or stimulus/triggers
- B = Behavior
- C = Consequence
- Change your behavior by changing the response to a stimulus (A), then behavior (B), then consequence (C)
- Visualize a more productive behavioral response and consciously visualize choosing the emotion you feel (future-pacing – thinking ahead how you will respond)
These suggested habits are meant to empower and help build our inner emotional strength, a good step in the journey of personal growth.
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